If you were offered a job that paid $1,000 for an hour’s worth of work, that requires no degree, no experience and no real effort on your part…would you take it?
What if that job was prostitution?
For most, the answer would be “No.” Yet Gwyneth Montenegro still found herself being sucked into the world of sex work when she was only 19 years old.
“I never wanted to get into the sex industry in the first place,” she tells News.com.au. “I was 18, I went out to a nightclub and my drink was spiked and I got taken away and gang raped by 6-8 men – I can’t remember exactly how many because I was so out of it.”
Gwyneth had been a virgin until that point, and notes that her family were deep into the Christian faith. After being raped she says that she felt like she wasn’t “worthy” or “good enough” anymore in her own eyes, and rather than maintaining her current path of celibacy she wound up doing a complete 180 – at only 19 years old, she started stripping for money. “I felt that I’d already crossed a line when I stripped,” she explains, “so it didn’t seem that far off at the time. I thought, ‘Oh well, if I don’t like it, I can always walk out after the first shift.’”
“It was totally surreal. Once you’ve been paid for sex once, you can’t take that back.”
Despite falling into a career she’d never envisioned herself having, Gwyneth says that the money was what kept her in the industry for so long. “I would charge $500 – $1,000 an hour – that depended on the services. Usually you had to do quite a bit for that…I wasn’t very experienced and the ladies told me, ‘Our basic thing is basic sex and a massage.’ I was naïve, I didn’t even know what the ‘extras’ were. Over time I would do other things, like I was able to do kissing and toys and dress-ups.”
But it seems like “toys and dress-ups” were mostly the norm for Gwyneth, as most men weren’t into anything genuinely crazy like you see prostitutes having to do in the movies. “Most of it was just normal sex,” she recalls, “I was in the industry for 12 years – that’s a long time. But I didn’t see a lot of men that had these sick fantasies.”
And the reason for that? Seeing a prostitute isn’t necessarily all about sex. “There’s always a psychological motivation for sex, it’s not just a physical urge,” she explains. “A lot of the clients I would see would be an hour plus and I mean sure, they wanted the sex, but a big part of my job was just talking.”
“There was always some sort of psychological game from it. There was always a feeling of … you could sort of tell they felt more validated as a man or some of them felt like ‘I can control you’. They’d walk out with this strut.”
According to Gwyneth, men who seek out prostitutes feel “emasculated” in their relationships and are seeking that “manly” feeling again, partially in fault due to feminism. “I don’t want to be so brazen as to just blame feminism for this,” she cautions. “However, I think there is a part to play where men do feel emasculated. They don’t know ‘should I open the door? Will I get yelled at?’ A lot of the time the grip is they don’t know what it is to be a man anymore. They’ve lost their way. That’s what I’ve seen in my clients.”
Now 39, Gwyneth is trained in neuro-linguistic programming and spends her time teaching women how to “understand” men. You can read the rest of her interview HERE.